FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 11, 2011
MAC blog post #10- The Art of Possibility
I found the chapter on "The Way Things Are" to resonate with me. I pride myself on being a very creative, "out-of-the-box" thinker who can find new solutions for many of life's challenges and obstacles. I am also very determined and persistent about getting what I want. These qualities create a variety of effects; I often (but do not always) get what I want. When I don't get what I want I react in 1 of 3 ways; I find a new angle as a means to that end and try again, or I find a replacement goal and pursue that, or very rarely, I become angry and spiral into a black hole of loss of control. Being so adept at "controlling" my world also can have its backlashes; I have a tendency to WAY over-think things and second-guess myself into paralysis. Drives my mother crazy. I create too many options for myself which results in a condition I like to call FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). This is a Rule #6 moment; I am lol-ing at myself here... So I would say I have some difficulty with the practice of being with "The Way Things Are" (frequent yoga notwithstanding). Although the one exception to this for me is when it comes to other people and relationships in my life; I do not attempt to control people, I do not hold grudges, I do not often allow myself to be hurt by other peoples actions. This is another Rule #6 moment; people do not think about you nearly as often as you think they do, so don't imagine that their actions have anything to do with you.
However the sum of these parts may actually be aligned with the practice of "The Way Things Are". The result is that I consider myself to be in complete ownership of all of my choices; that I have been lucky enough to have made every choice and had all of the control, which has landed me exactly where I am today. And I am not built for regret.
POSTED BY LLARGE AT 1:18 PM
Bravo, Lara, I applaud you. You are indeed very creative and it is always a positive step when one can take responsibility for whatever choices they make in life. I too enjoyed that chapter. Those of us are “out-of-the-box” thinkers and workers tend to find creative ways to deal with the various situations in which we find ourselves. The chapter about “passion” came to mind when you spoke about becoming angry and losing control. It reminded me that we could allow ourselves to have and experience those emotions as well as the happy and joyful ones, because we are after all, human.